One thing you learn with the birth of a second child is that
same mom, same dad, does not equal same kid- each one is unique unto
him/herself. I’ve seen my own children develop at their own pace. The oldest chose not to read until the end of
first grade - not because she couldn’t but she wouldn’t. My youngest also showed no interest but her
reasons turned out being related to learning challenges (I write this with her
permission!). We worried a lot about her
future at that time.
As an educator, I have lost count of how many typically average
smart children in middle school have become super stars in high school and
college. It took them longer for all the
synapses to connect but when they did - WOW!
It is one of the reasons why the conversations about not
writing a child’s script for him/her come up often at our school. If we had limited our late bloomers as they
were developing, would they have achieved what they did? True, there are certain courses in middle
school that are leveled - Hebrew, Bible, and Math. We do so out of recognition that,
pedagogically, children develop their abstract and conceptual thinking skills
at different rates. But we also resist
the notion to establish honors classes in middle school for Social Studies,
English, Spanish and other core areas.
Rather we treat each subject as an honors class and challenge students
to rise to our levels of expectation. If
they need support, we assist them in getting there.
Had we labeled some of our super graduates at that critical
juncture of their development, we would have been limiting them to what we
believed they could do. Instead, it is critical
that children be able to help write their own scripts - to actively be engaged
in stretching themselves. They need to know that their teachers believe in them
and the expectations for everyone are the same.
As educators, we must be vigilant about not falling into the
dangerous trap of labeling a child in terms of their potential. As parents, we need to teach our children to
be actively engaged in their own growth and development. The Hebrew root of both teacher and parent is
l’horot - to guide. Let’s be mindful of
our role in guiding our children in reaching their potential rather than
choosing the path for them - to provide them with the confidence to become self
advocates, ask good questions, and help write their own scripts in life...with a
little help along the way!
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